Michael Jackson Hoax Death

The people here who are experiencing extreme emotions of sadness and grief/depression now that they believe MJ is dead, I wanted to make a post for those people.

I think something that might help is trying to figure out WHY you are so sad.  This isn't an effort to minimize your grief or say your feelings aren't real or don't matter, but something that might help ease some of the pain for some of you is to figure out WHY you are mourning.

And again when I say that I don't mean “Why are you mourning you shouldn't be mourning”  That's not what I mean at all.  I guess a better way to put it is WHAT are you mourning?

1. Are you mourning the loss to you personally?  No new music, no chance to meet or see MJ again in person, no chance to go to concerts, no more music videos

2. Are you mourning the loss to the world artistically in general (same types of things as above, but more of a broader thing than your personal loss.)

3.  Are you mourning your own lost childhood or youth, or your own mortality?

4. Are you mourning the loss of a great humanitarian and example and the world feels a little bit darker because of that. (If so, you may be comforted by the idea of MJ being present in spirit and inspiring others to work to improve their lives and the lives of others.)

5. Are you mourning for the familiy and the kids who lost many years with him?

6. Are you mourning because he was so young?

7. Are you mourning how sad his life became and the fact that it happened right before a big comeback.  And it seems unfair?

8. Are you mourning for all of these reasons, or something else entirely?

9. Are you feeling in some way spiritually conflicted because you don't have all your ducks in a row in that area and the loss of someone you can't imagine dying has shaken you?

It may be helpful to categorize it.  Sort it out. Don't judge your feelings just feel them and figure out exactly what you're mourning.  Knowing what you're mourning can help you to deal with it and move forward, hopefully in a positive and non self-destructive way.  (i.e. have you neglected your family, friends, work, personal health for this?)

There are many ways to address each of these issues of mourning and to move past it and find some peace. 

When you figure that out, you can think about what specifically MJ meant to you, how he inspires you, and what you're going to do with your own life from this point forward.  Are you inspired to become involved in humanitarian efforts, to enhance your own spirituality (many have felt a spiritual awakening since June 25th including myself), to do something creative or artistic.

Maybe you've never done anything creative or artistic before.  Maybe you want to give writing, or dancing, or painting a shot, either for their therapeutic value, or just to create.

Just some thoughts.  Because I feel like there are a lot of people who have moved to the “MJ is really dead” belief and it probably isn't very healthy for them to flip flop back and forth. There are some really loud emotions and i wanted to write a post that might help some people bring order to the emotional chaos they are experiencing.

I hope someone finds this helpful/comforting.

Now that's nice mjfan… awesome!

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